How to Talk to Your Parent About Accepting Help at Home

How to Talk to Your Parent About Accepting Help at Home

Starting a conversation with your elderly parent about accepting help at home can be one of the hardest steps you take as a family carer. It often brings up emotional and practical concerns—from pride and independence to trust and change. But handled with care, these conversations can lead to better outcomes for everyone.

At Right at Home South Liverpool, we regularly support families navigating these discussions. Here are some tips to help you approach the topic with empathy, patience, and confidence.

1. Choose the Right Time and Place

Avoid starting the conversation during a moment of stress or crisis. Choose a quiet, relaxed time when your parent feels calm and safe. Make sure there’s enough time for a full, uninterrupted chat.

2. Be Honest—But Gentle

Open the conversation with love and concern. Instead of saying, “You can’t cope anymore,” try:
“I’ve noticed you’re finding some things more difficult lately, and I want to make sure you’re getting the support you need to stay safe and comfortable at home.”

Using “I” statements helps to avoid sounding critical or confrontational.

3. Focus on Independence, Not Dependence

Many older adults worry that accepting help means losing control. Reassure them that home care is about enabling independence, not taking it away.
For example:
“A little support could help you keep doing the things you love—like staying in your own home, cooking your favourite meals, or seeing friends.”

4. Involve Them in the Decision

Ask your parent what kind of help they feel would make a difference—whether that’s support with housework, shopping, or personal care. Involving them in the process makes the change feel less imposed and more empowering.

5. Take Small Steps

Suggest a trial visit or short-term care arrangement so it doesn’t feel like a permanent decision. Often, once people experience how helpful and friendly carers can be, their resistance fades.

6. Be Patient

If your parent is hesitant, that’s okay. It might take a few conversations. Reassure them you’re having this discussion because you care—and that support is there when they’re ready.

At Right at Home South Liverpool, we offer personalised, compassionate care designed to fit around your loved one’s lifestyle. If you’re ready to explore home care—or simply want some advice—we’re here to help.

📞 Call us on 0151 665 0365 or visit www.rightathome.co.uk/southliverpool to learn more.