How To Create a Memory Box With Someone Who Has Dementia

At Right at Home Alton & Bordon, we understand that watching someone you love with dementia can feel like navigating an unfamiliar territory, but despite their memory not being as sharp as it once used to be, the emotions often remain attached. That’s where a memory box is proven highly effective - a personalised way to spark cognitive function, by taking a trip down memory lane. 

Whether you're a caregiver, family member, or friend, this guide will walk you through how to create a memory box that’s both meaningful and impactful.

What Is a Memory Box?

A memory box is a small collection of personal items that represent important moments, people, or passions from a person’s life. It can help individuals with dementia:

• Recall fond memories

• Feel more secure

• Start conversations and storytelling

• Reduce worries by providing familiarity

Step-by-Step: Creating a Memory Box

1. Choose the Right Box

Pick something that’s easy friendly to them; easy to open and handle, with no sharp edges.

Ideas:

• A decorative wooden box

• A shoebox wrapped in fabric or paper
  
  

Label it with your loved ones name and maybe a photo of them when they were younger for a personal touch.

2. Gather Meaningful Items

Choose 5 - 10 items that relate to their life experiences, interests, and memories. 

Suggestions:

 Personal History:

• Old photos (labeled if possible)

• A copy of a life achievements, i.e marriage certificate 

• A letter or card from a loved one

Hobbies & Passions:

• Sewing notions (like buttons or 

• Baking tools - a rolling pin  for example 

• Sheet music or a small instrument like a harmonica

Sensory :

• Their  favorite perfume

• Old jewellery

• A smooth stone or seashell

3. Make It Safe and Accessible

Check for safety:

• No sharp objects

• Avoid valuables or irreplaceable heirlooms

4. Add Labels or Stories

If your loved one can still read, labeling items with a few words (e.g, “Mum’s wedding day - 1968”) can help spark memory recall.

5. Use the Box Together

Set aside some quiet time with your loved one, to explore the box together. Ask open questions:

• “This photo is beautiful. Do you remember who this is?”

• “You always loved the garden. What were your favorite flowers?”
  
  

There’s no pressure for them to remember everything - what matters most is the emotional connection, so a small change in their behaviour when looking at the box is a win. 

A memory box is more than just a collection of things of past things - it’s a tool for connection, comfort, and cognitive function for those living with dementia. Whether it brings a smile, or a quiet moment of recognition, a memory box is simple yet has a lasting positive impact.

If you or a family member are considering homecare services in Bordon or the surrounding areas, a personalised homecare package can provide the flexible, compassionate support needed to live a fulfilling life at home, without compromising on care or comfort.

If you feel that a loved one would benefit from live in or hourly homecare services and would like to find out more, then why not call Right At Home Alton & Bordon on 01420 481716. One of our experienced team will be happy to help.

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